trans parents, non binary parents, queer parents in general. whatever way you slice it we exist and we can be vaguely cute!!

Hey :)

having a trans-parent can be difficult too - discuss?!

got thhis from the lovely MCCOOZE

‘Hi, i wrote in about being the child of a father who transitioned when i was in high school! I’d love to talk more about the experience/chime in as needed! i should mention, however, that my childhood wasn’t the greatest because it turns out that sometimes it really sucked to be raised by someone who didn’t particularly want to be a parent (an experience which contrasts with that of a trans parent who transitions *before* doing the kids thing) someone who was angry and scary and depressed much of the time. She’s much happier now in most ways, but we certainly have a complicated and convoluted past, which sometimes makes talking about our relationship tricky (especially since it’s something I’m really just beginning to “work through” for myself). Anyway, yes, I’d love to talk about it, despite the fact that my experience is fairly complex (but whose isn’t, especially if a gender transition is involved?). 

Feel free to ask me anything (really)!!

P.S. The “ask me anything” was directed more at anyone in general who might be curious about my experiences, since I put a lot of value on sharing stories. I really don’t mind talking about any of it (sometimes I find it helpful for myself!) Also, love the blog name change :)’

really feel for Mccooze’s and their childhood, as these things go through MY mind ALL the time. I am trying MY best but we will have to see.

Please FYVCTP’ers it would be brilliant to talk about our feels for our children and maybe take this oppotunity to engage in a converstion with someone who’s ‘been there’ :)

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transsuperman816 asked: I just wanted to thank all of you for having this site exist and for all the families posting. I've been transitioning for almost a year and my biggest dream is to be a father, so to be able to see real people like me raising children and being a family makes me feel my dream is possible. For transdad, what has been the biggest struggle in regards to being trans and having a child?

:) Ok FYVCTP’ers any TRANSDADS out there want to answer this lovely fella?
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Trevor MacDonald is a breastfeeding trans dad to a toddler but a winnipeg branch of the La Leche League has a policy that only mothers can be leaders and have denied Trevor ’s application to be a leader.
Like other organizations that provide care to pregnant and post-partum people, La Leche is being challenged on their assumptions about the gendered nature of parenting, and having to think about how to meet the needs of people other than coupled, heterosexual women, including LBQ women, single mothers by choice, and trans people. Fertility clinics, midwifery and OB/GYN practices, abortion clinics, lactation consultants and breastfeeding clinics are all grappling with these issues. 
What is heartening about Trevor’s story is how much support he is receiving from many quarters, including parenting communities. Hopefully this is a reflection of new models of trans-inclusion in reproductive care, and of broad support for queer parents in general. 
check the article out for top links for transmen and transmasculine people considering pregnancy.
(via LGBTQ Parenting Network - News)
not sure if many followers outside the UK have read juliet jacques column for the guardian. the on going (she has just recently had GRS) column is a brilliant document of her journey through transition. check it out, she uses long words, references all sorts of stuff and just generally, is a clever writer.
in this article she talks about banking sperm and how she feels about being trans and a parent. it’s another side to our multi faceted story but valid.
(via ‘I hated the thought of a child I’d raised struggling with my history’)

we ain’t VAGUELY cute any more.. we are VERY cute!

is that better?

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rememberthisinyourheart asked: "vaguely" cute? Why so harsh?

Right that’s it!! :) :) I’m changing the vaguely to very (corporate branding is expensive) :) FUCK YEA VERY CUTE TRANS PARENTS it is then :) (I’ve been off being a FYVCTP and while I’ve been gone the public disentnhas escalated)
Thanks for the prompt and
Ill never eavesdrop of @miss-sakamotos conversations again :)
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FYVCTP advert #1 - PARTNERS OF MTF

people who are partners of trans women have a nice new tumblr go check them out…

http://partnersofmtf.tumblr.com/

its not all sharing make-up, clothes, shoes and going shopping as our ‘wonderful’ media would like us all to believe.. its real people in love, in relationships, sharing knowledge, having kids and getting on with the job of living and being happy :)

they too would like to get submissions, stories, images to share..

bespectacledcolfer:

fuckyeahftms:

It’s a special WE-dnesday for me! My wife gave birth to our son, Jack, this past Monday. I’m on his birth certificate as his father and no one ever questioned who I was. I even got the complimentary “dad’s meal” and all the nurses called me “Daddy.” It was amazing to finally be recognized for the role that I was born to play. I’m so happy to share Jack’s birth with the FTM community.
mtbowers.tumblr.com

Congratulations to the happy family! (I may or may not be tearing up a little…)

lovely lovely lovely XXXX